Just recently I was
speaking with a gentleman, and he very nicely gave me his cell phone number, he
said, he liked talking with me, and would I be willing to talk with him over
the phone some time? Before I took his number I asked, “are you married or in a
relationship?” He seemed a little put off by my question. So I made it quite
clear if he has a significant other, I would not disrespect that person by
entertaining conversations with him in a personal manner, without their
knowledge. So, he smiled and assured me that he was single and no one would be
offended, if I called him. Then my next statement to him made him laugh and pull
back. I said, “I might call you, and invite you to my congregation.” That
really threw him into a guarded response. He laughed nervously, and said, “I don’t
know about that.” I took a mental and
spiritual note of his hesitation and fear. Right Then, and there, I decided I would
NOT call him. I would continue to speak
to him whenever our paths crossed. I
will, however, pray for him and his eternal soul.
So with this experience,
my mind wondered what my Father, Abba would say to me about dating. In the past
I have rarely prayed for a mate. Mostly, I have prayed for my friends and my
single daughter. So, Abba and I started to
talk about dating. I questioned who is the ideal mate, husband? What does He desire for His
single daughters?
Then He told me to
look at what he has already said in the Word, about that. So I went to the law of first
mention which is in Genesis 2 18 The Lord God said, “It
is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”19 Now the Lord God had formed
out of the ground all the wild animals and all the
birds in the sky. He brought
them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living
creature, that was its
name. 20 So the man gave names to all the
livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam[f] no suitable
helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he
was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then
closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a
woman from the rib[h] he had taken
out of the man, and he brought her to the man.23 The man said,” This is now bone
of my bones and flesh of
my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for
she was taken out of man.”24 That is why a
man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife,
and they become one flesh.25 Adam and his
wife were both naked, and they felt
no shame.5Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved
the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b]her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church,
without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for
their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to
his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her husband.
Likewise, there is NO mention of any
relationship in ANY of The Bible stories about God putting two males or two
females together. That is not an option in God’s culture.
Paul also said It is not good to burn with
lust. “it is better marry than to burn.” Godly men, have Godly desires. So, if
we are following the laws of nature and the laws of the scriptures, God has a
Godly plan for each union in Him. This has to be prayed over, protected, and
guarded by both parties. Why? so that the devil, doesn’t come in between the
love relationship and turn it to hate, resentment, lust and all sorts of evil.
So what should the single female be doing
while waiting for the man of God to get up his courage? Well, she should be
praying for the man of God, who is seeking his rib? She should be praying that this man will love
her as Christ loves the church. Along
with praying she should begin to make her body, soul and mind healthy and ready
to bear his children, also to receive and submit to his love.
If a woman is
past child bearing and does not desire to have children, then she should be
prepared to receive the mate who already has a family from previous marriage, and
is also past child bearing age.
Those who are young and active should go
about their daily lives fulfilling all that God has planned for them. It
is He God, who has the right rib, for each male. It is God who does the
blending. Let us allow Him, Abba, Daddy to miraculously join hearts and spirits
together. Stop following the world’s show business relationships. it is NOT “One
life to live, or Scandal.” Love God’s way is submitting to Holy Spirit, who is
leading us, in the correct love triangle, where God is always involved. Just as
God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit are in an unconditional
love triangle with each other. God is LOVE! We are to copy, follow and pattern
His love. Then, and only then, will We have the best everlasting love triangle. Christ will NEVER divorce his Bride. That is NOT
an option in God’s Kingdom. That is why
unless two agree in spirit, to worship the same God, in the same manner, they
should NEVER walk together.
This is the word of the Lord.