Ten tips on Resisting the Ghetto

Chapter 1 Resisting the Ghetto
Now here she was in her mid fifty’s the time is 2010. Three sons all married and her only daughter an MD. The summer has just begun. Can you believe it? After all she had to overcome, all the struggles of living in the ghetto, the trials,negative pull of drugs, crime, promiscuous sex, and miss-education. Her family is still together. Her children are still walking in a relationship which their God.
With great determination and faith in God this single mom was able to keep her dreams, aspirations, hopes, goals above her circumstances. Her only regret was that she had to work three jobs just to make ends meet. She was not always able to be with her children at nights. She was never able to give them the all their eyes and hearts desired. But she knows that God had their back. He placed angels around them and always answered their prayers and provided for their needs.
Now as a grand mother she would like to encourage other moms who find themselves single for what ever the unfortunate reasons. Yes, it is possible to plan and hope for success in raising kids free from crime, drugs and hopelessness.
1}Love God with all your heart and soul and mind (Have a faith in someone greater that your self and share that with your children)
2} Live a life of gratitude. Sing praises and create an atmosphere of gratefulness in your home. Play wholesome music, have good christian media in your home.
3} Live a transparent life before God, your children and your friends. Tell the truth, don't pretend.No hypocrisy. Share your testimony with others. Share with those who can pray about what happens to you and your family.
4} Have family meetings and discussions to make decissions. Consult God in prayer. Teach your children to communicate with God for themselves, the family and for others.
5} Apply the laws of the Kingdom. Model planting and reaping. Partner with someone in prayer, apply the law of if two shall agree. Encourage a married couple to mentor your family. My mentors were Maureen & Carl Graham, Desmond & Cecelia Harriott and Ken & Nerissa Jackson. These couples were Uncles and Aunts to my children.
6} Parenting is a life changing assignment,from God. You are not called to be their friend but rather provide them with adult leadership and security.
7}Teach them the importance of obedience to God and rules. Use examples of consequences to disobedience you and others have had.
8}Establish patterns in family activity, such as fun and games, church & Bible Study, home-work,sports etc. This provides consistency and stability.
9} Teach your children as much as you know and give them opportunity to learn even more than you. Model and set academic goals to the highest possible achievement. Talk about their college and careers as early as possible.
10} Model Justice and fairness use God's method in your home, let your children understand God is merciful to us. We are all equal in God's sight. We are all sinners in need of repentance, yet created to be joint heirs of God’s Kingdom